This is a question that I often am asked, either in an email, on the phone or during a consultation with a couple. From the couples that I've met and had the opportunity to serve, I've been hired months in advance to just short notice. I've been told that some wedding planning books suggest waiting only a month or two before your ceremony!
So, what's my take on it, you ask? I feel that it's always best to leave yourself enough time to be able to have a choice of *who* you'd like to have officiate your ceremony. Does anyone really like to be "stuck" with the "leftovers"? I think we can all agree that it's nice to have a choice. Officiants are as different as wedding venues and wedding dresses -- we all have different views, different belief systems and different ways that we work with couples. Some of us custom-make ceremonies while other allow you to choose from pre-created ceremonies. Some of us are more hands-on than others; consultations may be offered in person or by phone or even email while others will meet a couple for the first time at the rehearsal or wedding day.
Overall, I encourage my couples to find an officiant that is a good "match" for their personalities and their beliefs. Have some ideas written out that you, as a couple, have complied together and then begin your search. When looking for an officiant, keep in mind:
* What does the officiant's services include?
* What is the officiant's belief system? Will any of his/her beliefs interfere with your beliefs or wants for your ceremony?
* How accessible will the officiant be to you? Are you limited to how many times you can meet or call?
* How well does the officiant interact with you and your fiance? How much time has an officiant invested in the initial contact with you?
* How up front is the officiant with his/her fees? Are there any "hidden fees" or are things such as travel fee(s), long distance phone charges, etc are presented up front, either during your initial consult or on their website? Is the officiant's fee average or more expensive than other officiants? If more than, what is the officiant's reasoning?<
These are a good set of questions to help you get going as you begin your early stages of searching for an officiant. Please keep in mind that there is the right match for you out there -- don't be afraid to go out and get the one that you want!
(For more information on her services or to contact Tiffani, please visit her website at http://www.upbeatweddingofficiant.com)
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